Just read an aphorism on another site:
"If you want something you never had, you must do something you've never done."
Short, pithy, and like many aphorisms, subject to debate, with plenty of examples to prove that it's not true all the time.
Even so, it holds truth. If you want to be a doctor, or lawyer, you have to give up some "fun" time and do some hard work over a period of years, and, if you are successful, and there is NO guarantee you will be, you will be a doctor, lawyer, or whatever your dream is.
If you want more money than you are making now, you need to work harder, work longer, or change jobs. If all the jobs you are qualified for require skills you do not have, get them. If you don't know how to get them, start asking those who have those skills how they got them.
Just sitting on your couch complaining that you don't have anything, or will never be a success, will always be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you want something you never had, you will have to do something you've never done.
In the society around me, I see people of all races, religions, and stations in life complaining that "somebody" or "something" is keeping them from succeeding. At the same time, I see people from all races, religions, and stations in life achieving dreams and reaching heights the others only talk about someday reaching.
The difference?
In general, and there are exceptions, the "successful" ones decided to do more, work harder, learn more, and, yes, give up at least some of the part of themselves that wanted to party and feel good. Based on my experience, even if you don't achieve the pinnacle of success, you will feel even better when you have proven to yourself, that you can "have" more than you ever have had, because you were willing to do something you had never done before.
Donovan Baldwin